Let’s face it, much of what you see as Lolita before getting into Lolita is Sweet, and I really do love Sweet, I just do not like wearing it. I love cute things. I love ponies. I love bunnies. I love kitties. I just do not love wearing them on me.
When I bought my first Gothic & Lolita Bible, I went through and tabbed things that I really liked. Almost all of it was very Gothic Lolita. I also dressed in Goth fashion for a while (I still do for certain events), but now that I am actually dressing Lolita, I have no real desire to be a Gothic Lolita. I still love the look, just again, not for me.
I bought a pair in white last summer. I was so excited to wear them. Then they arrived, and I do not like them. I wore a lot of chunky shoes in high school, but that was more in fashion then. Now I prefer sleeker shoes. I like thickier heels, but not chunky heels.